Last year, I wrote a post about safety measures to take to avoid an assault or mugging. Those tips included ways to be aware of your surroundings and some self-defense tips. Check out the original post for more information.
I have always adhered to those safety measures in my own life, operating on high-alert and paying attention to my surroundings. And yet, On Monday night I experienced something I never thought would happen to me. My car window was smashed in and my purse stolen, including my wallet, tablet, and a few other personal items.
Here's the story:
I pulled into the parking lot at the gym where I coach a few nights per week. As I drove to my spot, I noticed a truck that was out of place. It seemed suspicious, but also looked as though the guy had pulled into the lot to look under the hood of his truck. I parked in my spot and as I started walking into the building, he had driven out of the lot (the wrong direction) and started driving down the road.
Less than 25 minutes later, another coach came into the building and asked who drove the silver car because the window had been smashed in. I ran out to my car to find the passenger window completely shattered and my car ransacked.
I made the mistake of leaving my purse on the passenger floor. It had my tablet, wallet, a book and some important papers. It also had a small toiletry bag with perfume and few other valuables inside. Luckily, my keys and my cell phone were with me inside.
But now he had not only caused damage to my vehicle and stolen from me, but he had my address, the location of my job, what my car looked like, and other personal information about me. I was devastated and terrified.
The sheriff arrived and took my statement and we filled out a request for additional patrol at our home in case he tried to go there. We cancelled our cards, listed them all as stolen, and we were able to catch him using one card at Walmart. Hopefully the information from the transaction, the video at Walmart and my description will help find the man who did this.
I don't expect to get my stuff back. And I don't even care about the damage to my car. It's all horribly inconvenient and going to cost us some money out-of-pocket (high deductible) to fix. What's more important to me is that our home is protected and I am safe at home and work.
I am sharing this story, not for pity or even for advice, but to provide yet another learning tool for how to be safe in your daily life. Things might have turned out different if I had listened to my gut - at the very least it would have told me to bring my purse inside with me. The guy in the truck was suspicious and I gave him an easy target and ample time to commit the crime.
Of course, I don't know that it was the truck guy (although it seems to match the description of the man who used my card at Walmart.) I don't even know that it's a guy at all. What I do know is that I had never seen him or his vehicle before and my gut told me something was wrong. I didn't listen. I didn't trust my own feelings and that cost me my possessions, my safety, and my emotional security.
I was aware enough to notice the behavior and make a mental note of his suspicious activity. I was aware enough to remember his truck and his appearance and even the fact that he drove out of the parking lot the wrong direction, indicating he didn't belong there. I did the first important steps and paid attention to my surroundings. But I failed to act on them.
Next time, I will head back to the vehicle and secure my belongings inside. I will jot down notes on what I saw and pass that along to the gym owners so we can be on the lookout for suspicious people. 90% of the time, these steps will be fruitless and unnecessary - and 90% of the time people are just out of place and not committing a crime. But the other 10% of the time, I'll be glad I have a paper trail and that I listened to my gut instincts.
Please, my friends, learn from my mistake:
Be alert, pay attention, and act. And never make it too easy by leaving your possessions in plain sight. Those simple steps might prevent something similar from happening to you!